"No matter how people try to dispute it, perception is reality. Its what you choose to believe that makes you the person you are." -Karen Marie Moning

There are times when people are confused and scared and there are times when they are happy and unstoppable. But it takes only a few seconds, that one moment to change your world and your life forever. It can be a fall, a flood, a blast, a birth, a wedding, or a better job.

But the funny thing is, these moments that change our life; we can’t categorize them into good or bad. If a birth, a wedding or a better job can change someone’s life for good, a bad boss, un-cooperative colleagues, or an oppressive family can change his life for the worse. And just like that a blast or a flood can make one realize that life is too short to be spent sulking and complaining, just like it can leave someone else completely devastated.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that no situation can be compartmentalized in to good or bad because its not about what it is but what you seek out of it; that’s important.

"The truth is, I feel beyond sad. I feel empty. Numb. " — Elizabeth Scott

No music, no movies,

no books, no words,

no art, no joy,

no sorrow, no happiness,

no people, no friends,

no one and no thing...

Just surrounded by sheer emptiness. 

"There will be rubs and disappointments everywhere" - Jane Austen

There will be little rubs and disappointments everywhere, and we are all apt to expect too much; but then, if one scheme of happiness fails, human nature turns to another; if the first calculation is wrong, we make a second better: we find comfort somewhere."
- Jane Austen

When a tigress gives birth to the cubs, she often chases off the male as he is a threat to the cubs and may even attempt to kill them; and so the female rears the cubs all by herself. But despite that, the cubs never grow up to hate their father. As soon as the mother has finished teaching and nurturing the cubs, they leave their mother and start a life of their own. There is nothing right or wrong about it, it’s just a part of their nature; like it is human nature to expect.

One of the most difficult things to do is to be able to recover from your disappointment. We expect a lot of things from our life and form the people in our life; and if we think about it, we’ll realize that unfulfilled expectations often make us unhappy.

It need not be a heart break every time things don’t turn out as we expect them to. I'm saying that we should be able teach ourselves to accept disappointments and move on in life. 

As much as I’d like to believe life is perfect. There are going to hard times and we are going to be disappointed and hurt. But we'll be happier if we face the facts of our life and accept them. I think it’ll be easier to recover from our disappointments if we understand that we’ll always find something to learn from them in the long run, if not immediately.
Moving on is difficult. Coming to terms with our losses are difficult. But once we understand that change is a part of life and after and we will always be a little happy and a little sad life just becomes easier than it seems now. 

"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all." — Oscar Wilde

There comes a time when nothing makes sense in life. When the only thing you want to do is to try and figure out what’s going to happen in the future. These are desperate times, times when you would give anything to be told what it is exactly you need to do to get it right in the end so you’ll be able to live a happy and fulfilling life. This is the time when we all need to sit back and think for some time. So I thought I should do that. And so I started by asking myself a few questions.

What is it that I really want from life. Is it success? Is it fame? Is it money? Is it all of the above? And if it is, then why do I want all of this? I thought the answer to this is quite simple, I want it because I think it’ll make me happy. I think it’ll make me happy because I’ll be able to stand tall and say, see this is what I have always wanted and I’ve achieved it, and I’m successful and rich and happy. But then doesn’t that mean that I’m afraid of failure?

Let’s face it, none of us would like to fail, I mean failing in exams is understandable, but failing in Life, now that’s just depressing, isn’t it? It’s terrifying to know that there is a possibility that I may completely fail in life. Every time I think like that, the hair on the back of my neck stands and I get depressed and then I sleep a lot, I don’t eat well and then I start looking bad and that in turn makes me feel even worse.

As i sat down thinking, I realized that I’m actually sitting and worrying about the wrong things, because worrying about the future or the past is not going to help me live a happy life now. I think NOW is more important than yesterday or tomorrow. So if I’m sitting right now and worrying about future failure, it isn’t really making me happy is it? And if I do fail in the future that also isn’t going to make me happy is it? So why waste time worrying about something that isn't going to make you happy today, or the next month, nor the next year, never.

My life is NOW, and it is what I’ll make of it. So I’m not going to be happy thinking about success or failure, about the past or the future. The only way I’ll be able to live a happy life is if I live it right now in the moment. So I promised myself that I’m going to do exactly THAT.

If we don’t accept that the key to a happy life is to understand that it is NOW or Never we are never going to be happy, or even successful or rich, because we’ll always be running after something thinking that what we have isn’t good enough and we’ll lose out on all the great things in life because we were too busy running after something that we already had.

So all I want to say to those people out there waiting for life to happen to them is; Stop and Breathe, look around you, everything you ever wanted it right there, you just need to open your eyes and SEE, and I promise you’ll find what you are looking for, I know I did.